
Healing the Worthiness Wound: Reclaiming Your Voice & Taking Up Space
Healing the Worthiness Wound:
Reclaiming Your Voice & Taking Up Space
By Francie La Flow

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough?
Or maybe, on the flip side, like you’re too much?
If so, I see you. I feel you. I am you.
The worthiness wound has been one of my biggest teachers, and truthfully, it’s still an ongoing journey for me. Even after years of singing, teaching, and sharing my voice with the world, I still catch myself in moments of comparison, self-judgment, and questioning my place.
Some days, I hear the old whispers:
“Who am I to take up space?”
“What if my voice isn’t good enough?”
“What if people judge me?”
Other days, it swings the other way:
“Am I too much?”
“Am I taking up too much space?”
“Will people think I’m full of myself?”
This push-and-pull—feeling not enough AND too much—is the paradox of the worthiness wound.
Origins of the Worthiness Wound
For so many of us, growing up with big emotions in families that just didn’t have the tools to truly see or understand us—where the response was often to medicate, dismiss, or ignore—led to deep self-suppression. We learned to shape-shift, to people-please, to stay small and not disrupt the delicate balance of our family systems.
One of my biggest teachers, Gabor Maté, speaks about the tension between attachment and authenticity. As kids, our need to belong, to feel safe, to be loved often trumped our ability to fully express who we truly are. And that can leave us feeling lost—especially as adults, when we start to feel the call to strip away the masks, the personas, the voices we’ve crafted to fit into the world.
But who are we really underneath all that?
And how do we give ourselves the space and freedom to be who we are—regardless of whether we’re accepted for it or not?
I believe that, with few exceptions, our parents did the best they could with what they had. No one intentionally sets out to suppress their children’s voices. But healing—becoming who we truly are—is a journey of unlayering, of releasing the adaptive patterns that once kept us safe but no longer serve us.
And at the core of this process? We often find trauma—much of it rooted in our earliest relationships. But just as trauma is formed in relationships, it is also healed through them.
The Worthiness Wound & The Throat Chakra
The worthiness wound isn’t just mental—it’s energetic, emotional, and deeply somatic.
The throat chakra, Vishuddha, is the energy center of authentic expression, truth, and self-worth. It governs how freely we communicate, sing, and share our voices.
When our worthiness is in question, the throat closes.
We hesitate. We hold back. We silence our truth.
But the worthiness wound doesn’t just block the throat—it blocks the heart too.
So many of us struggle with feeling disconnected from love, joy, and authentic self-expression because deep down, we don’t feel worthy of being seen and received fully.
We fear rejection.
We doubt ourselves.
We let the fear of being too much convince us to be less.
But this does not serve us.
When we make ourselves small, we rob the world of our gifts.
When we shrink our voice, we suppress our truth.
When we doubt our worth, we deny ourselves the joy of full expression.
And the truth is—no matter how powerful, successful, or “together” someone may seem, this wound is universal.
Worthiness is a shared human experience.
It is not just your struggle. It is our struggle.
And by acknowledging it, by bringing it into the light, we can begin to heal.
From Blocked to Fully Expressed:
5 Ways to Heal the Worthiness Wound & Reclaim Your Voice
1. Recognize the Inner Critic & Challenge the Narrative
That voice of self-doubt? That feeling of “not enough”? That’s not your truth. That’s an old wound speaking.
Ask yourself:
“Is this belief really mine? Or was it given to me by culture, teachers, family, society?”
Then reframe:
🔹 Instead of “I’m not good enough,” try “I am learning, growing, and already enough.”
🔹 Instead of “I have nothing valuable to share,” try “My voice is meaningful because it is real.”
2. Give Yourself Permission to Take Up Space
You are not too much. You are not too loud. You are not asking for too much.
You deserve to be seen and heard.
Try this:
- Stand tall, open your chest, and take a deep, expansive breath.
- Imagine your voice filling the entire room.
- Say out loud: “I am worthy of being heard.”
- Sing a sound that feels full, open, and embodied.
The more you practice owning your space, the more natural it becomes.
3. Shift from “Performance” to “Expression”
So much of our worthiness wound around the voice comes from the idea that we have to prove something. That our voice has to be “good enough” to deserve to be heard.
But your voice is not about performance. It’s about presence.
Sing because it feels good.
Express because you need to move energy.
Use your voice for the joy of it, not for validation.
Ask yourself:
“What if I let go of being ‘good enough’ and focused on being fully present instead?”
4. Move Stagnant Energy in the Throat
When the throat is blocked, the best way to clear it is to use it.
- Humming (activates resonance & flow)
- Toning (long, open sounds like AHHH, OHHH, EEEE)
- Mantra singing (repeating simple sounds to open the channel)
- Shouting or laughing (yes, really—make noise!)
The more you activate your voice, the more you tell your body:
“It is safe for me to express.”
5. Remember That Worthiness is a Choice
Worthiness isn’t something we earn. It’s something we choose to believe in.
You don’t need to do more, be more, achieve more to be worthy.
You already are.
Try this affirmation:
“I am worthy of love, joy, and expression. My voice is valuable. I take up space with confidence and grace.”
Your Voice is Ready to Be Heard. Are You?
Healing the worthiness wound is an ongoing journey that requires patience and often being in relationship to peel back the most subtle of layers. If you’re calling in support to heal your worthiness wound and awaken your authentic voice, I have a few spaces open for my Awaken your Authentic Voice Mentorship program—an intimate journey for those who feel stuck, blocked, and ready to reclaim their voice with confidence and freedom, and I’d love to support you.
💜 This is for you if…
- You feel the weight of comparison, perfectionism, or fear when it comes to your voice.
- You know you’re meant to express yourself more fully—but something is holding you back.
- You long to sing, speak, or share your truth with ease, but self-doubt keeps getting in the way.
- You’re ready to move beyond the old stories of not-enoughness and step into the power of your fully-expressed voice.
This mentorship is deeply personalized, soul-aligned, and available at a price I will never offer again.
If your heart is saying yes, this is your moment.
You are worthy. Your voice matters. Let’s unlock it, together.