by Francie La Flow

The voice is one of our most honest storytellers. It expresses our truth, our fear, our history and our desire to be heard. Through somatics, we learn that the throat is not only physical. It reflects the energetic and emotional patterns we carry, the places we feel safe, and the places we have learned to stay small.

When we feel safe, the voice flows: open, grounded, resonant. When we feel stressed or blocked, the voice responds immediately. This is not weakness. This is intelligence.

The voice is simply communicating what the nervous system has learned to protect.

Common Signs of a Throat-Chakra Imbalance

Many people experience imbalances here without realizing the body is trying to communicate.

You might notice
• Tightness or constriction in the throat
• A lump, fog or heaviness before speaking
• Chronic throat soreness or easy fatigue
• Difficulty expressing needs or boundaries
• Speaking very quietly or becoming inaudible
• Swallowing your words instead of releasing them
• Losing your voice during conflict or emotional stress
• Upspeak or softening your tone to avoid disagreement
• Trailing off at the ends of sentences
• Feeling blocked when trying to sing
• A fear of being misunderstood, rejected or judged

These are not personality traits.
They are signs that your system is still protecting you.
This writing is a gentle guide to help you understand those signals more clearly.

A Personal Story: When Trauma Took My Voice

As a child, I loved musical theatre. Singing and dancing lit me up and i lived for the next production. I wanted so badly to be an actress/singer/dancer when I grew up. My voice was my happy place. It felt like the place where I could be fully myself.

Years later, after training to become a yoga teacher, I entered a spiritual community led by teachers I admired deeply. I placed them on a pedestal. They dressed in all white, and seemed to have access to the highest wisdom I’d ever come across.   When they brought me into their inner circle, it felt like it was a sign that I was finally growing into my full potential as a human. They helped me build a retreat business I loved and that was not only fulfilling, but supported me and other causes financially.  It was a dream come true.  Until it wasn’t.

One day, in 2016, they suddenly ended our relationship abruptly in a letter. They told me I was not to contact them again. They said that if there was an emergency, I could reach out to them exclusively through their new protégé, a woman who had once been my assistant.  

They ghosted me. No explanation. No conversation. No closure.

My heart fractured. The mind, without clarity, goes into dissonance. And because I had no way to process the rupture or speak my truth, something inside me shut down.

Slowly, my literal voice began to disappear.

For a year and a half, I could barely speak. My throat was constantly sore. It hurt to talk. It hurt to sing. If I slept poorly or was even slightly out of balance, the pain worsened and my voice would vanish entirely. I feared something was seriously wrong.

Doctors inserted tubes down my throat and told me my glands were swollen and I needed more rest and more ginger tea.

It took nearly ten years of understanding trauma, the nervous system and somatics to see the deeper truth.
Yes, the rupture was traumatic. But the reaction lived in an older wound: the childhood pattern of shrinking, of staying small, of trying not to disappoint, of fearing rejection, of fearing what would happen if I spoke too boldly or took up too much space.

My voice wasn’t failing me.
It was protecting me.
It was expressing the truth that my mind couldn’t yet name.

How Trauma Shapes the Voice

Because the vagus nerve threads through the vocal folds, the voice becomes a direct expression of nervous system state. Breath, tension, posture, jaw, tongue, ribs and larynx all shift depending on how safe or unsafe we feel.

Below are the four primary survival responses and how they often manifest vocally.

Fight Response: The Pushed or Forceful Voice

What Fight Is:
Fight is a mobilizing survival response. The body prepares to confront or overcome a threat. Muscles tighten, breath becomes forceful and the throat often braces.

How It Shows Up in the Voice:
• Speaking loudly or forcefully
• Pushing or straining the voice
• A tight jaw or rigid throat
• Abrupt, clipped phrasing
• Difficulty softening your tone

Why It Happens:
The voice amplifies in an attempt to assert power and create safety through strength.

Helpful Supports:
• Extend your exhale
• Loosen jaw and shoulders
• Low, gentle humming
• A hand on the chest to invite softening

Flight Response: The Rushed or Breathless Voice

What Flight Is:
Flight is a mobilizing response oriented around escape. Breath becomes shallow and quick, and the voice follows the momentum of urgency.

How It Shows Up in the Voice:
• Speaking too fast
• Running out of breath
• Higher pitch than usual
• Words spilling out without grounding

Why It Happens:
The voice tries to move quickly enough to outrun discomfort or perceived threat.

Helpful Supports:
• Ground through feet
• Slow nasal breaths
• Intentional pauses
• Long “sss” exhales

Freeze Response: The Quiet or Stuck Voice

What Freeze Is:
Freeze is an immobilizing response. The body chooses stillness when movement or expression feels unsafe. This can heavily affect the throat.

How It Shows Up in the Voice:
• Feeling unable to speak
• Whispering or trailing off
• Losing voice mid-sentence
• A lump, tightness or fog in the throat
• Swallowing words or feeling blocked

Why It Happens:
The voice withdraws to protect you. Silence becomes a shield when expression feels risky.

Helpful Supports:
• Gentle body warming with touch
• Small, micro movements
• Low humming or sighing
• Speaking while lying down to reduce pressure

Fawn Response: The Soft, Pleasing or Self-Diminishing Voice

What Fawn Is:
Fawn is the survival strategy of staying safe by being agreeable. It attempts to secure connection through harmony and compliance.

How It Shows Up in the Voice:
• Upspeak (raising pitch at the end of statements)
• Overly soft or apologetic tone
• Minimizing presence or opinions
• Matching others’ tone to avoid conflict

Why It Happens:
The voice shrinks to avoid rejection. It adapts to keep relationships stable at the cost of your own expression.

Helpful Supports:
• Practice simple truth statements
• Chest-resonance humming
• Upright posture to support sound
• Speaking one grounded sentence without softening

The Worthiness Wound and the Voice

Many people believe shyness or quietness is simply personality. But often these patterns come from the worthiness wound: the belief that your voice is not welcome, not valuable, or too much.

When early experiences taught you that expressing yourself led to punishment, dismissal or disappointment, your system learned to protect you by shrinking the voice.

Signs this may resonate
• You fade out at the end of sentences
• You apologize before speaking
• You fear being fully seen or heard
• You doubt the importance of your words
• You hesitate or lose your voice under pressure
• You use upspeak to soften truths

Your voice remembers everything your body has lived through.
It has been trying to keep you safe.

Meeting Your Voice with Compassion

Your voice does not heal through force or perfection. It heals through safety, warmth and presence.

Gently supportive practices
• Notice your state before speaking
• Place a hand on your throat or heart
• Breathe into the belly and ribs
• Hum softly to soothe the vagus nerve
• Speak in small doses and celebrate them
• Treat your voice as you would a child learning to trust again

Your voice is not wrong. It is a compass.
A guide.
A messenger of truth.

As safety returns to your body, your voice will too.
Stronger, clearer and more authentically you.

If this resonates, and you’re feeling called to explore your voice more deeply, you’re warmly welcome to continue the journey.

✨ Begin gently with my free Vocal Activation Starter Kit, a collection of simple, trauma-aware practices to support safety, expression, and reconnection with your voice.

🌿 Or go deeper through 1:1 work with Francie, where we explore the voice, nervous system, and inner world in a personalized, compassionate space.